Sunday, June 10, 2007

The Guy They Want to Marry

Be the guy they want to marry. That has been my goal since I can’t remember how long. Of course only they can tell if I’ve succeeded, but success is not measured simply by results, it’s also measured by the effort and benefit you give and gain from it. Guys, I’ve come to realize that it’s time to step up and become the leaders we were born to be…to be men…to live in such a way that is pleasing to the Lord, and if you happen to incur the eye of a beautiful young lady along the way, Great! But honestly, that’s what I want: a girl whose eye is attracted to my whole hearted devotion to God and wants to become a part of that—after all, that’s what a helpmate is for. It’s all fine and dandy if you can manage the outward appearance of Godliness, but it’s the inner man and his integrity that show through in the end. This means that the greatest battle we fight is that with our own desires, we must fight the lust of our hearts.

“Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it spring the issues of life.”
(Proverbs 4:23)

I’ve often wondered what kind of girl I would marry, and the only thing I could come up with were generalities such as Godly, pure, and beautiful. When I was a child, I once declared to my mother that I would marry her when I grew up. Naturally, I didn’t understand all the implications of that at the time, but now that I look back on it I see a certain childlike wisdom in the idea: to marry a girl like your mother makes good sense. I have thought more than once that I would even like to marry a girl like my sister in some aspects, which is a reason for me to guard her innocence against the worldly-minded guys that are out there. But conversely, you girls would probably be well off looking for guys who are like your fathers and brothers (assuming that they’re Godly gentlemen). I’m not saying that we should limit ourselves to this, but it seems a good general guideline to follow.

Anyway, you may disregard everything I just said because I’m still an unmarried young man, but I think there is at least the possibility that I’m right, and as I said before, “Only they can tell.”